Moira Rose, PhD, LMFT, LPC

I’m Moira Rose, founder of The Rose Method Couples Therapy, an independent practice in Santa Barbara, California. I work with couples who love each other but have grown weary of having the same argument in different rooms.

Perhaps your conversations have become logistical briefings. Perhaps one of you pursues a discussion while the other develops an urgent interest in the garage. Or perhaps “nothing’s wrong” is being delivered with enough hostility to wilt the floral arrangement.

Beneath these exchanges, there is often something more tender: a longing to feel chosen, understood, or important to the person beside you. That is where our work begins.

My approach draws on emotionally focused therapy, attachment, and narrative therapy. Together, we’ll understand the cycle that keeps you stuck, explore what lies beneath your reactions, and practice asking for connection in ways your partner can actually hear. Apparently, a meaningful sigh from across the kitchen is insufficiently specific.

I won’t appoint a villain, crown a winner, or adjudicate who loaded the dishwasher with greater moral integrity. I will help both of you make room for honest conversation, take responsibility for your part, and approach each other with greater care.

I offer in-person and virtual couples therapy for partners located in California. You needn’t recreate your honeymoon. We’re looking for a connection that can survive ordinary life, unexpected change, and the discovery that your beloved has once again finished the good cheese.